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Time Management: The Hidden Key to Strengthening Executive Function Skills
November 2025 | Executive Function
Have you ever reached the end of the day and thought, "Where did all the time go?" Do you ever feel like you're juggling 10 things at once ... and dropping at least three? Or maybe you've watched your child melt down over a simple task and wondered, "Why is this so hard?"
If any of that sounds familiar, you've bumped into the world of executive function-- even if you didn't know it by name.
Executive function (EF) refers to a set of cognitive skills that allow us to manage time, plan, organize, remember, and regulate emotions to achieve goals. These skills act as the brain’s control tower, guiding thoughts, actions, and priorities. Just like an airport’s control tower coordinates all flights to avoid chaos, executive function skills help children, teens, and even adults coordinate all the “flights” of our day — schoolwork, chores, activities, relationships, and more. Geesh! That's a lot to process!
Consider this ... Children begin developing EF skills in early childhood through routines, games, and modeling. In other words, the harder kids play, the more they learn. Young kids depend heavily on external scaffolding to facilitate much of the process of learning. What is scaffolding? In plain terms, scaffolding simply means giving a learner just enough help to learn something new, and then gradually taking that help away as they become more confident and independent.
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When Growth Meets the "Independence Cliff"
Around middle school, expectations shift dramatically. Teachers and parents start saying things like, “You’re old enough to handle this on your own.” Assignments grow longer. Projects become multi-step. Extracurricular activities multiply. Social lives expand. And family expectations at home rise too.
In other words, the demands skyrocket overnight.
It’s not that your child’s executive function has weakened — it’s that they’ve just been handed the keys to the car without ever having driven.
When adults start a new job, someone typically trains them, offers feedback, and gradually steps back. But for kids, this scaffolding often disappears too soon. We expect independence without explicitly teaching how to manage it.
The result? Tasks slip through the cracks. Time “vanishes.” Motivation dips. They look “lazy” or “unfocused,” when really, they’re overwhelmed by the sudden leap in responsibility.
Think of it like building a tall wall: you use a scaffold (temporary support) to reach higher, but once the wall can stand on its own, the scaffold comes down.
In education, scaffolding might look like:
Breaking tasks into smaller steps.
Modeling how to do something before asking the student to perform the task.
Providing hints, visuals, or examples initially.
Reducing support as the student gains proficiency.
In short, scaffolding helps students reach success step by step until they can do it on their own. Setting schedules, outlining steps, and using visual aids are all helpful reminders of what’s next. Over time, as children mature, they internalize these supports and start to self-manage.
But something happens during the preteen and early teen years that often derails this smooth transition — and it’s not that their brains suddenly regress.
Why This Stage "Hits" So Hard
Developmentally, the preteen brain is still under construction. The prefrontal cortex, which governs EF skills like planning and prioritizing, won’t fully mature until the mid-20s. Yet society expects tweens and teens to juggle academic workloads, emotional pressures, and social complexities at adult-like levels.
In other words, while their emotional energy is high, their organizational capacity hasn’t caught up.
That gap (or space for lack of a better word) is where frustration lives: for both kids and parents.
Teaching Teens to "Drive" Their Day
Think of your child’s EF journey like a family road trip:
When kids are small, parents do all the driving.
As they grow, they might help pack or pick the playlist.
Eventually, we hand over the keys — but often without showing them how to plan the route, check the gas, or navigate detours.
Without guidance, the road trip becomes stressful, not empowering.
Time management isn’t intuitive; it’s taught, modeled, and practiced.
Reframing the Goal: From Overload to Ownership
The truth is, only so much fits into 24 hours. Adults struggle with time management, too, so expecting perfection from a 13-year-old is unrealistic. Instead, success lies in teaching students to:
Prioritize tasks that truly matter
Break large goals into smaller, achievable steps
Build realistic schedules
Reflect and adjust daily habits
When parents model balance and structure, kids internalize those same rhythms.
The Giant Clock: 12 Strategies for Time Management
To make EF skills tangible, imagine a giant clock, where each hour represents a different time management strategy. These can be practiced one at a time or woven into daily routines.
Helping Kids Succeed: A Parent's Role
Supporting your child doesn’t mean doing everything for them — it means scaffolding the process. Just like a coach trains an athlete with drills before a big game, parents can coach kids through planning, tracking, and reflecting.
Model it: Use a family calendar, discuss your own deadlines, and show how you adjust when things change.
Make it visual: Kids think better when they can see the plan — color-code, post reminders, use checklists.
Break it down: Teach “chunking” — dividing big tasks into smaller, doable parts.
Check in regularly: Quick, non-judgmental check-ins build accountability without pressure.
Normalize struggle: Managing time is a life skill, not a personality trait.
❝ Teach kids to delegate tasks so effort becomes shared, not overwhelming."
Because We're Building Futures, Not Just Routines
Our goal isn't to raise perfectly scheduled children; it's to nurture self-aware, adaptable learners who can manage their time with purpose and confidence. Teach kids to delegate tasks so efforts become shared, not overwhelming. When we teach executive function and time management hand-in-hand, we're not just organizing their days; we are empowering their futures.
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When peace shows up in your planner, you'll know you're doing it right.
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